Wednesday, January 16, 2019

Ain't That a Kick in the Head

Neuro ICU, Tampa General Hospital
This will be a good story to tell, my husband says on the way home from physical therapy. He fell and fractured his skull six weeks ago. Oh, yeah, I say, we’ll look back on this and laugh and laugh. At the moment, I can’t even tell my hairdresser without bursting into tears. It’s embarrassing. For friends and relatives who didn’t know about Graeme’s trip to the Neuro ICU, I apologize. Chalk it up to denial and a loss for words. I couldn’t believe what was happening at first, and then, it seemed better to wait until the news was good. Today, I’m happy to report that Graeme is on his way to a full recovery. He’s back at work, though at a fraction of his old pace, which is probably a blessing. He lost hearing in one ear, can’t drive for a year, and his balance is shot, but he’s getting stronger every day. His neurologist says he was extremely lucky, if you don’t count the fall.

It happened during his annual camping trip to Sebring. He wasn’t feeling well (and wasn’t drinking). He asked a friend to stop the car, took a few steps and collapsed. Doctors later blamed a stomach bug and dehydration. Because he’s so tall, the drop to the concrete was especially hard. His skull cracked on the left side. Blood ran out of his ear. He turned gray, stopped breathing. His friend Don admitted, “I thought he was dead.”

My brother-in-law was the one who called me. “Graeme’s being airlifted to Tampa” sounded like a stupid joke, even for these guys. “I’m not kidding,” Craig said, and I could hear the panic in his voice. “Alaine’s on her way to pick you up.” Twenty minutes later, my sister and I were speeding down the highway toward the ER.

When Graeme tells this story, I’ll mention how his helicopter was rerouted from Tampa to Lakeland and back again. GPS recalculating. First Craig called, then Don, then one of the paramedics who’d been on the scene. They’d all heard something different. Then the phone rang again, and it was the president of Sebring International Raceway, asking what he could do to help. (We’ll come back to him under “the extraordinary kindness of strangers.”) I’ve never been so scared in my life.

Long story short, Graeme spent eight days in two different hospitals. The impact of his fall caused a brain bleed and seizures. He was in critical condition for a while. When he finally woke up, his short-term memory was gone. He remembered everything and everybody pre-fall, just nothing we’d talked about five minutes ago. It’s funny now—we told him the helicopter story at least twenty times, and he was always impressed—but what would it mean for his career? His phone filled up with messages from anxious clients. Alaine and I scrambled to do his work and ours between shifts at the hospital.

Graeme and his sister, Gayle
Thank God for my sister. I don’t know what we would have done without her. And Craig. And Graeme’s sister Gayle, and her husband Rudy. At times like this, you find out how lucky you are for the people in your life. Gayle and Rudy, who happened to be in South Florida, cut their trip short to stay with us at the hospital. After Gayle’s month-long stint in the ICU, we couldn’t have asked for better medical advocates and company. When Graeme came home, Gayle flew back for another week to care for her brother and keep me sane. My parents delivered home-cooked meals and stayed with Graeme when I had to work. They also drove us to the ER the second time, but that’s another story.

Speaking of driving, let’s go back to the president of Sebring Raceway. Wayne Estes called that first night and every day after to check on Graeme. I asked if we could leave our van at the track—it was locked, full of camping gear, and the key was in Graeme’s pocket—until we figured out how to get it home. Wayne said not to worry. The next morning, his wife, Rita, arrived at the hospital with a giant gift bag of treats and snacks. (It fed us for weeks.) She held out her hand and asked for the key. Then, she drove back to Sebring, and she and Wayne brought the van north, where Craig and Alaine picked it up. That’s at least 8 hours of driving by people we’d never met. I’m still awed by their kindness.

So many people to thank. Highland County EMS. The helicopter pilot and crew who kept Graeme alive on the way to Tampa. The staff at TGH, one of the best trauma centers in the state. The neurology team at ORMC. My cousin-in-law Ellen, a former EMT, who gave us some invaluable advice, along with chocolates, puzzles, a video and a book on traumatic brain injury. At first, I hid it from Graeme, not wanting to traumatize him with the TBI label, but now, he reads a little every night. It helps, he says, to understand his new normal. Headaches. Dizziness. Fatigue. Insomnia. Bouts of fog and frustration. He wants to be better yesterday. He’s learning patience. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that pain means you’re still breathing.

My cousin Laurie and her husband Wallace have made three trips from Jacksonville to cheer him up. They come, hug us, stay for lunch and leave. That’s my definition of love. Graeme’s friends have been here from the start, although he doesn’t remember the first time Don, John or Loredana visited in the hospital. I took pictures, just to be safe.

Staff Meeting with Alaine, Graeme and Cato
We’re lucky for friends like Greg and Gary, our neighbors, who took care of the cats while we were gone. Dr. Carol Logan, who gave Graeme a new pair of glasses to replace the ones he lost. Nicole Broseman, Katie Miller, Victor Cannon and the rest of the Orlando Magic family. One of the first things Graeme said when he woke up was, “Did I miss a game?” (So far, he’s missed nine, and they’re on a winning streak.) As if we didn’t love the team enough already, they sent flowers, jerseys, and a Christmas get-well message we’ll never forget.

Thank you to everyone for the flowers, fruit, cheese, crackers, cookies, candy and Whoopie Pies. Glucose is fuel for brain recovery, so sugar is exactly what Graeme needed. There will be personal thank-you notes when life settles down (did I mention tax season?) but in the meantime, please know that we’ve been blown away by your thoughtfulness and prayers.

One last thing. Thank you to the stranger in the elevator of the parking garage at two in the morning, who leaned over and whispered, “Don’t you worry, honey. Everything’s going to be fine.”

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